May 19, 2012

What Causes Diaper Rash?

Many diaper rashes are normal. This is not a statement of infant heresy, but a simple fact. Many babies develop angry red areas of skin under their nappies, which usually cause more concern to the mother than the child. There are other rashes that should not be present and require medical treatment. It is far better to prevent these rashes than to later find it necessary to take aggressive treatment measures.

Prevention involves changing wet nappies as soon as possible, and avoiding, when practical, the use of pilchers or plastic overpants. Many mothers and babycuddling friends will know how impractical the latter can be at times.

Diaper liners can protect the skin and should be used routinely with cloth nappies. When nappies are washed, rinse them thoroughly afterwards to remove chemicals and detergents. When bathing the infant, use a small amount of the mildest soap possible (as soap can remove the protective oils that coat an infant’s skin), and apply zinc cream, lanolin or petroleum jelly to the bottom afterwards.

Despite all these precautions, many mothers still present to a doctor’s surgery with a happy baby who has a diaper rash. This does NOT mean that these women are poor mothers – in most cases it is merely the excess sensitivity of their child’s skin. Diaper rashes are generally due to wetness.

Sweat can play a part as well as urine, so it is important not to overdress the child, particularly in summer. It is not unusual to see a baby with a diaper liner, diaper, pilchers, pants and jumpsuit covering its overheated lower half. Rough textured nappies are also a problem, and diaper liners or disposable nappies can overcome this, as can the correct selection of material when making nappies.

Diaper rashes that require medical treatment are usually due to infection or oversensitive skin. The most common infection is fungal, and may be called tinea, thrush or monilia. This may appear first in the mouth, before migration through the gut to cause problems around the anus. This type of rash often avoids the deep creases of the bottom, has a bright red edge with a paler center, and there may be small spots beyond the edge of the main rash. It is treated by anti-fungal creams for the bottom, and anti-fungal drops or paint for the mouth.

Babies who may develop eczema later in life, have more sensitive skin than normal, and this may cause angry red rashes in the fold lines. These may require a mild steroid cream to clear them. Other nasty types of diaper rash, such as bacterial infections, are uncommon. Most can be treated, controlled and prevented by the mother with some advice from her general practitioner.

All diaper rashes are aggravated by urine, and it is often worth while to allow the baby to lie without a diaper on, but with a diaper or two underneath it in the cot to catch any accidents. Overbathing may also aggravate diaper rashes, and it may help to bathe only every second day, wiping dirty areas with a damp cloth (without soap) at other times.

Creams and ointments from chemists can be used on mild rashes, but ensure that the preparation is designed for this purpose, as some treatments not specifically designed for babies’ bottoms may aggravate the rash.

A diaper rash is not a reflection on the mother or a sign of neglect. If the rash does not settle after simple remedies, it is sensible to be reassured by your doctor that it is not one of the more serious forms that requires specific treatment.

In Self Defense Protect Yourself Avoid Trouble

In Self Defense Protect Yourself Avoid Trouble

Violence is a fact of life and yet there is no reason we can’t defend ourselves against attempts of violence, or better yet avoid trouble all together.  Knowledge is power and with a few common sense techniques you’ll be empowered to move about more freely and with greater confidence.  You may be surprised to learn the first rule of self defense is to avoid trouble, confrontation and dangerous situations.  This simple rule will keep you safe and out of harms way.  It’s amazing what a bit of thought and planning can do.

Self defense is one of the basic facts of life we must address to prevent unwanted attacks.  Let’s move on and explore how to eliminate threats of violence from our daily lives.

street smarts In Self Defense Protect Yourself Avoid Trouble

In Self Defense Protect Yourself Avoid Trouble

The first step is to avoid threats.

Be Aware;

  • The first rule of thumb is to be aware of what’s going on around you.
  • Be aware of the potential threat others can pose.
  • Be aware of situations violent people look for and respond to.
  • Last but not least, be aware of helpful information which provides you with the street smarts to avoid trouble.

Be confident;

  • People who appear confident don’t make for easy prey.
  • Those who appear nervous or scared attract the wrong sort of attention.
  • Keep your head up, be confident, or fake it.
  • Be careful not to flinch or jerk when someone approaches you with a question, in a matter of fact fashion keep walking as if on a mission none of which includes trouble.
  • Don’t take this too far and act cocky it will only attract trouble.

Be cool;

  • Don’t get in confrontations.
  • While at a bar any trivial thing like, such as, who’s the better singer etc can fuel a hot head.
  • What maybe kidding or light hearted banter could offend a hot headed drunk.
  • Stay cool and avoid verbal brawls as drunks tend to get out of hand over such situations and a fight could break out.
  • Keep a cool mouth!

Don’t Attract Attention;

  • Do not wear a lot of fancy flashy jewelry.
  • Do not pull out your high dollar phone, cash or iPad in public.
  • Keep your pricey personal items concealed or at home if need be.

Run in Packs;

  • Stick with your friends when walking home or hanging outside a club or theatre.
  • There is security in numbers so keep with the pack and keep safe.

No Eye to Eye;

  • Avoid direct eye contact if you sense someone looking you over or possibly sizing you up.
  • Remain confident with your head up all the while ignoring them and moving on.

Avoid large groups;

  • Do not walk through the middle of a large group of men.
  • Cross the street or sidewalk before they notice you coming, do so casually and with your head up and stay on task!
  • Look purposeful and self assured.

In Self Defense Protect Yourself Avoid Trouble

Follow Your Gut;

  • When in doubt get out!
  • If you feel threatened or smell trouble go the long way around getting away from the situation.
  • It’s better to spend more time getting out of a bad place than to take the quick route! Avoid trouble!

At one time or another you will need to put these basic in self defense techniques to work.  Be confident knowing you know what to do and avoid to protect yourself and avoid trouble.

Much Love and Safety, Katie

 

 

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What is Play Therapy?

What do we mean by “play therapy”?

Is it just another play experience for the child?

Or is it something uniquely different?

And if it is different, why is that so?

What happens to the child as a possible result of the play therapy experience?

What are the dynamics of play therapy?

And what are the implications of it?

Children experiencing play therapy have spontaneously described it in many ways,

A seven-year-old boy, in the middle of a play therapy session, cried out:

“In here I chase my hate into a corner and turn it into a three-inch high toy soldier and beat hell out of it with the hammer. And all of a sudden I see my hate is really my fear. And my fear smothers me. Then I grab my fear and paint it on paper, I can make it big. I can make it small. I can tear it up and throw it in the waste basket and spit on it. There’s nothing to be afraid of if I just know what it is.”

A six-year-old girl who had had a series of operations and who was severely handicapped used the toys to play out her hospital experiences. She reassured the doll patients. And she denied their fears telling them repeatedly “Nothing would happen.” “It’s just a nice nap. You’ll be asleep and when you wake up everything will be wonderful.” But in her play the dolls cried out in protest to the attempt to deny the feelings that were overwhelming to the child. cried out in fear that no one understood how they really felt if they could say it was nothing. Over and over again she played out the agony of one who suffers and who seems to be unable to communicate adequately the deeply felt need to be understood. Outside the playroom at this time she still felt the need to deny her own feelings of fear and anxiety. But eventually she was able to recognize her own fee lings and by the recognition and ownership of them take the first step in gaining control of her feelings, rather than be controlled by them. One day she said to the therapist, “In this room are toys and dolls and water and doctors’ sets and hammers and rubber knives. But it is my operating room. It is a very special room. It has a one-way door on it. And in here what I do stays here with you and with me. And I can keep it here until I want to open the door and say ‘Get out! Go away! You can’t scare me any more. I’m not afraid of you any longer.’ Just a one-way door that only I have the right to open and to close.” This was her way of describing the experience.

There a re many different psychological rationales and methods known as psychotherapy. The overall objective is probably basic to all procedures: namely, to provide a relationship with the child that will enable him to utilize the capacities that are within him for a more constructive and a happier life as an individual and as a member of society. The degree to which this is achieved varies greatly with individual cases. The methods by which we seek to achieve the cooperative effort between the therapist and the client varies.

It seems evident that individuals are learning something a ll the time. It is a cumulative, integrative process. A baby is born into a completely new and different world of experience. With his first breath, he begins his long span of accumulating experiences. The first breath leads to the second breath- and while it is similar in process, it is not identical. The third breath is different from the preceding ones because of the changes in lung capacity, the experience of breathing, the process of adjusting to the outer world. And this begins the individual’s experience in a world of people and things. Life forces interact and the process of learning is underway.

Psychotherapy itself is a learning experience a very complex, cumulative, integrative, personal involvement. The individual’s perceptions of himself and his relationships to his world are as uniquely the individual’s as are his own heartbeats.

Efforts may be made to increase our understanding of how experiences are perceived by the individual and it may be possible to obtain a fairly close approximation of the individual’s perceptions.

However, the individual alone experiences the total impact of any personal involvement because he feels not single, isolated fee lings of the moment, but fee lings that a re created and colored by the affective accompaniment of his total experiences.

In psychotherapy we are dealing with emotionalized attitudes that have developed out of the individual’s past experiencing of himself in relation to others. These emotionalized attitudes influence his perception of himself as either adequate or inadequate, secure or in secure, worthy of respect or not worthy of respect, having personal worth or being deficient in this basic feeling.

His perception then, in turn, determines his behavior.

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How to deal with Bed Wetting

Habitual bed wetting at night may be a result of organic disease or defect, but in the majority of cases, it is psychological in origin. Bad habit training in infancy may also be a contributory factor. It is not uncommon in epilepsy, disease of the spinal cord, diabetes, defects of the urinary tract and in severe mental defect. An organic cause should be excluded before ascribing the disorder to a psychological factor.

The bed-wetting child, in psychological terms, is expressing a protest, or unconsciously asserting a desire to return to the most protected phase of life: babyhood. It symbolizes a regression due to a lack of security in the child’s relationships with the world of reality. Such a lapse may arise from illness, from over-protection or neglect on the part of parents, or from excessive demands by parents for affection or for grown-up standards. Frequently, bed wetting arises after a period of normal control and in such cases there is generally some immediate or sudden threat to the child’s security.

The arrival of a new baby creating a jealousy situation, the loss of a loved person, the commencement of school-such events may disturb the stable inner world of childhood with resultant bed wetting. Often frustrated aggression, especially if associated with feelings of guilt and inferiority, is the psychological background of enuresis.

Habit training has a place in treatment but, fundamentally, treatment must be directed to eliminating the psychological factors which are adversely affecting the child. Expert investigation at a Child Guidance Clinic is recommended. A careful study must be made of the child’s reactions to the members of the family to discover the underlying insecurities and frustrations.

The causes must be made clear to the parents and their co-operation obtained in rectifying these. Every effort must be made to remove the sense of inferiority and guilt so often associated with bed wetting. The child must be encouraged and given confidence. Fluid-restriction is usually of little value as is also the case with drug treatment. In older children, suggestion through hypnosis may prove helpful if combined with efforts to remove the basic psychological troubles.

Bed wetting is admittedly a difficult disorder to cure, but in view of its social implications every effort should be made in the early stages to effect a cure before the disorder has become a confirmed habit.

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What is Reinforcement and Punishment?

Learning is one of the major features of the behavior of humans and other animals. It is a process by which activities become more and more elaborate as they build on simpler ones. Psychologists think of learning as changes in behavior that depend on at least some degree of practice.

For learning to occur, a particular pattern of behavior must somehow be produced and maintained. Educators therefore stress the role of interest or motivation in learning.

One feature of learning is that it lasts. Long-forgotten skills often survive so that it is easier to re-learn them than it was to learn them in the first place. Whether learning happens at all and whether it lasts seems to depend upon reward or reinforcement.

Behavior that is followed by praise or success increases in strength, while unrewarded behavior tends to fade out. Although we usually think of rewards as pleasurable events, some things promote learning without our being aware of them and are better called reinforcers. For example, a parent taking even momentary interest in a child’s activity is likely to reinforce that activity, even though the interest is not obviously pleasurable or rewarding for the child.

Imitation is a potent force in starting behavior, but the behavior is likely to be short-lived without reinforcement. The same applies to observation; people who simply observe others learning may improve their own performance, but the improvement is often only temporary unless reinforced. The withdrawal of the reinforcer during learning usually weakens the behavior.

Unlike reinforcement, which is used to strengthen behavior, punishment is designed to weaken it. The exact way in which punishment operates is not yet understood. Rather than directly weakening the behavior in question, it may produce different behavior which competes with the original behavior. The new behavior can then be reinforced.

Less effectively, punishment may simply suppress undesirable behavior temporarily. It is clear that. both punishment and reinforcement have a weaker effect if they are delayed. There is also evidence that punishment can lead to disturbed behavior, especially when associated with such basic activities as eating. For example, cats given electric shocks while feeding in their cages soon refuse to eat altogether, even in completely different surroundings.

Another aspect of punishment is the fact that its stopping can act as a reinforcer. Some children, for instance, go through periods of banging their heads against the wall. One explanation of this behavior is that the pleasurable effect of the punishment stopping is stronger than the pain experienced when the punishment starts. In other words, the child may bang his head because it feels so good when he stops.

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Best Wedding Invitations

personalized photo wedding invitations 300x300 Best Wedding InvitationsDeciding on the best wedding invitations for your wedding can be a very tough job.  Weddings are full of choices these days, and wedding invitations may be one of the most complicated choices for a bride and groom. 

Once you have chosen a theme for your wedding, whether it be a destination wedding, a seasonal wedding, or just a color scheme, you will have some help narrowing down the wedding invitation selection.  The theme of your wedding will dictate the style and presentation of your invitation, and it might narrow down the color scheme.   However, you will still have to choose the type of paper, and font, as well as the shape. 

Wedding invitations come in several shapes.  The most popular modern style is like the picture to the left, a square card.  One thing to consider when choosing size and shape is the postal rate.  Just changing it to a square may increase the amount you have to pay to mail each invitation.

Your printer can help you narrow down the font style based on the feel of your invitation.  They will have the experience to know what fonts look good with which theme.  For instance, a beach wedding invitation may be a looser less formal font. 

Other options will be the type of envelope, envelope lining, and types of inserts that you wish to include.  Some printers will also make matching return address stickers.

Wedding invitations also include a save the date card and/or a wedding announcement.  They can match or not match the style you choose for your wedding invitations.  It depends on how much you like things to match.

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Living With a Tween

Do you have a tween at home?

CIMG0002 300x225 Living With a TweenDo you live with a tween?  What?  You don’t know what a tween is?  A tween is a child between child and teenager usually between the ages of 11 and 15 years old.

When I was growing up a generation ago, there was no such thing as tweens.  There were children, teenagers, and adults.  But nowadays, an entire new group of kids has emerged, and rightly so, because our children develop so much faster than we did even just one generation ago.  Tweens are physically and hormonally more developed that we were.  My 12 year old daughter is just one inch shorter than I am and wears adult sized clothes, and she is no where near close to done growing.

But are they even close to as mentally developed as a teenager?  No way, they are still far behind teens in mental and emotional development.  So even though they look like teens or adults, they are not.

Communicating with Tweens

Tweens can be hard to communicate with because of hormones. The hormones we are used to thinking of being a teenager issue starts much earlier as girls especially start growing faster. Tweens can be very moody, and unsure of themselves. They cry easily, and feel less sef-confident in their new bodies.

One minute they will be happy, the next depressed. It is natural for them to be that way, but you need to keep an eye on them to make sure that the moods are not lasting too long.

Give them boundaries. They will test them over and over. You will have to repeat the rules, and the consequences. But they need your guidance.

Make sure to let them know that you love them. They are at a critical point in their development right now, and need to hold your hand, even if they seem to be pushing you away.

Praise their successes, even if they turn around and disappoint you the next time. They are listening to your every word, every nuance at this age.

Be the calm in the storm of their emotions. You need to be the one who anchors them in a confusing world of propaganda, internet, and peer pressure.

Where do tweens get their information?

Tweens get most of their information from school, the internet, and their peers.  And you have to teach them how to wade through gossip and innuendo to get to the truth.

Since so many of them already have their own Ipods, computers, or at least internet access, it is much, much harder to intercept everything they learn.  It is far more important to make sure that they are required to get permission from you to go anywhere or do anything even if it is with a trusted friend.

As adults, we are much more aware of dangers from the internet, and misleading, and fraudulent practices online, but our tweens are much more trusting, and vulnerable.  Since we cannot really monitor their intake of information, we absolutely need to know where they go, who they go there with, and what they are doing when they are there.  It is our job to protect them, and we as parents must monitor them.

Tweens need to get a lot of exercise

Self-confidence is a big issue for tweens.  Because their bodies are changing, they are uncomfortable with them and need to stay physically fit to use up their boundless energy and strengthen their bodies.

Getting them involved with group activities like team sports will also help them relate better to their peers, and learn teamwork and cooperation.  Try to find sports that are less competitive and more team oriented.

Tweens are Often Hungry

Tweens eat a lot. This is the best age to really get them to start eating healthy meals, because at this age they tend to eat just about anything in front of them. They are growing rapidly, and using up food’s resources quickly. However, when they stop growing, they will need to know how to nourish their bodies more efficiently.

Lots of complex carbohydrates like fruits and vegetables are the best snacks and appetizers. They will take longer to digest and give your tween more nutrients than a sugary snack. They also sustain their energy much longer.

Tweens also need a lot of protein for their growing bodies. This is a good time to teach them about vegetable proteins and the difference between fatty proteins and lean more dense proteins.

Smaller, more frequent meals is a good way for tweens to keep up their energy, and get good, solid nutrition.

Appreciate your tween while you can

Tweens turn into teenagers, then adults very quickly so appreciate your tween while you can.  Although you may be earning some additional gray hairs during this part of your child’s life, you will soon see it pass by.

They really do grow so quickly, almost before our very eyes.  Sometimes, I think that I can tell that my daughter has gotten taller just overnight.

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Your Child is Turning 18 Years Old | What Legal Rights Issues Do You Need to Know?

An 18 Year Old is a Legal Adult in Most of the United States

Tamar college 300x278 Your Child is Turning 18 Years Old | What Legal Rights Issues Do You Need to Know?In many parts of the world, and most of the United States, when your child turns 18, they will become a legal adult, which means that they will now have rights and privileges that they did not have before. It is important to understand what both you and your 18 year old child are now responsible for, when they become 18.

In the United States, individual states create most of the laws pertaining to age of majority. This is when a child becomes an adult in the eyes of the legal system. Once a person becomes a legal adult, they are no longer considered a minor (even if you think they should be).

Once a child has crossed the legal threshold into adulthood, they are responsible for control over themselves, their actions and decisions. They are no longer under the legal control of their parents or guardians. This is based on chronological age, not necessarily whether they are actually a physically, mentally or emotionally mature adult.

What are Some of the Legal Consequences of Turning 18?

While your 18 year old may still seem like a child to you, their actions after they turn 18 will have the legal consequences of an adult. Here are some of the legal issues that affect most 18 year olds:

  • Driving: Many states have laws restricting drivers under the age of 18 from driving 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. These restrictions are removed at age 18.
  • Jury Duty, and Voting: Since an 18 year old is now a legal adult, they can be called for jury duty, and have the right to vote.
  • Taxes: Just like the rest of us, 18 year olds are required to turn in their taxes on time.
  • Ownership: An 18 year old can’t rent a car, you need to be 21 for that, but he can buy one. He can also buy and sell real estate and stock, inherit property, enter into binding contracts, and get sued.
  • Jail: Criminal justice systems can no longer turn a blind eye toward pranks and misadventures that they did when your child was a minor. 18 year olds can go to jail.
  • Statutory Rape: Statutory rape laws are very different from state to state. You should make sure that your 18 year old is aware of the laws in their state, because dating their high school girlfriend may now be against the law.

When Your Child Turns 18, You No Longer Have Rights to Their Information

Parents who have raised a child since infancy, are used to having all the information relating to their child’s health, medical issues, financial issues, academics, and privacy. After all, you have been the ones who have taken care of these issues since their birth or adoption. However, once your child turns 18, you must have their permission to talk to a doctor for them, or access any of these records. This can be an issue when they go to college, or if they get in any serious health situation. It is best to check your state’s laws and the laws of the state where your child goes to college regarding these issues to prepare in the event that such a situation could occur.

Tough Decisions Need to Be Made

In order to help care for your 18 year old child, you can have them give you a power of attorney over their care, or parts of their care. However, the question remains whether you want to allow your child to become a mature, responsible adult with your guidance, or not. You know your child best, and must make tough decisions based on their maturity, and capabilities as to whether they are ready to become completely responsible for themselves.

In most cases, it is better to have your child learn to consult you for advice on how to handle their new responsibilities like credit card bills, medical visits, and college decisions. The hardest thing for some parents is letting go of the control, and allowing their children to become separate adults.

Being Prepared and Letting Go

Overnight, you have turned from a parent and legal guardian to a parent advisor.  This is something that no one can prepare for completely, but can be planned for.

With some foresight, and research into the legal issues in your part of the world, you and your adult child can work together to finish the growing up process, and help your 18 year old child become the adult that they were meant to be.

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